This is the first of a series called "Letters to a Lefty." Single mothers tend to vote democrat whereas married women tend to vote republican. This has much to do with the fact that single parenthood would be nearly impossible without the promised handouts from the left that attempt to replace the role of the father. Please enjoy!
Dear Single Mother,
Isn’t it amazing that society has given you such a skewed sense of reality – holding you up as a strong and independent woman; a woman who doesn’t need a man in her life. You get to have people constantly validating your strength with congratulations of breaking free of the patriarchy; for kicking that useless idiot to the curb and going it alone. And even though in reality, you are weak and more dependent than ever without the father of your children, you are doing a fantastic job playing along; milking it for all its worth.
That being said, I’m sorry that you will never be able to form strong maternal bonds with your children the way married women can because you’ve chosen to sacrifice their developmental years in exchange for working to pay the bills. I totally understand that by choosing to work, your children may suffer an average IQ loss of four to five points due to a lack of breastfeeding for the recommended period. It’s not your fault the bills keep coming every month, right? You and your child are more than four times more likely to live below the poverty line than a married couple (Rector, 2003). I totally get it. I feel for your struggle. I sense your pain.
And since you have absolutely no moral responsibility or choice in the type of man you have sex with, I hate that you were forced to (a) mate with a man who wasn’t going to be a stable provider for your family, or (b) you were such a horrible person that you drove a good man away. But I don’t hold that against you. It’s the men who are to blame, right? They make all the choices—not you.
I’m deeply sorry that your children are four times more likely to suffer moderate to severe abuse by your own hands and ten times more likely to suffer abuse if you decide to have a non-biological partner in the household. There goes that damned patriarchy again – forcing you to abuse and/or neglect your children.
Remember back before you were forced to open your legs to become that strong independent woman? If only the men had told you about the effects it would have on your children and society overall (source). I just wish they would have told you that:
· 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
· 90% of all homeless and runaway youths are from fatherless homes.
· 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders are from fatherless homes.
· 71% percent of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes.
· 70% of youths in State institutions are from fatherless homes.
· 75% of adolescent patients in substance abuse centers are from fatherless homes.
· 85% of rapists motivated by displaced anger are from fatherless homes.
I’m so sorry that we have a government and a society who is willing to subsidize your poor decisions; making it much less risky (at least financially) to have and raise children outside of marriage. And even though the most safe and stable environment for children is within a family headed by a mother AND a father, you are going to beat the odds, right? There’s no way in hell your children are going to become another statistic, right?
I believe in you.
I’m on your side.
-Single Mother Behavioral Disorders in Children: https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles/172210.pdf
-Recommended Length of Time to Breastfeed: http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/faq/
-Effects of Breastfeeding on IQ: http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/does-breastfeeding-have-an-effect-on-iq
-Robert E. Rector, “Increasing Marriage Will Dramatically Reduce Child Poverty,” The Heritage Foundation, Center for Data Analysis Report, No. 03-06 (May 20, 2003).
-The Truth About Single Mothers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1xf78EltKM
-Childhood Abuse and Neglect by Family Structure: http://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/opre/nis4_report_congress_full_pdf_jan2010.pdf